Hi Tonyd.
This is precisely the sort of topic I was hoping would evolve on the forum.
Many people like you, Damien, Ray and I have cars to tow with and often wonder if they are performing as expected.
I too tow with a car, but tow at the max capactity for the car. Most of my cars have come to me with between 85 and 100k on the clock and apart from occassional over heating climbing the valley's and a persistant rattly exhaust on my latest Laguna estate, I've had over 25 years of holidaying.
On the Laguna, I've replaced the cat which had the honeycoombe come adrift, and the tail pipe which goes over the back axle, but still she rattles above 3500rpm when towing uphill. My thought on this is that the exhaust has a lot of bends in it and I wonder if the pipe straightens out under extreme heat thus fouling on the rear floor pan.
So long as the car is not breaking down on a regular basis then keep on using it. One thing you could do is otw with the air con on as this induces the electric cooling fans on the radiator to kick in sooner and keep the engine running cooler. If this is not a possability, try patching into the thermostatic switch in the radiator with a standard accessory switch (non illuminated type) this will enable you to switch the electric fans on manually to again cool the engine sooner than normal. I used the switch trick on three Renault 25's to a very posative affect.
Steve.