Our Deepest Sympathies

[Dustydog]

Hi Damian
I've just read your post regarding the tragic loss of your daughter. I hope you don't mind and will not be upset but I felt I had to start a proper post rather than leave your statement hidden amongst debates over Rule 4.
I and Lady Villa, Terri, found it bad enough losing parents but to lose a daughter is terrible. We really do feel for you , your wife and family . Such a terrible loss does refocuss the mind onto what is important . I can only hope you mangage to cope with such a sad loss. The saddest loss any parent can ever suffer.

We are thinking of you Damian. In fact we are having a Memorial service for Terri's dad next sunday so if it is ok with you we would like to say some prayers for you, the family and of course your daughter. I appreciate not everyone does religion but we do.
Sadly none of us can turn the clock's back but we do take some comfort from Chistina Rossetti's "Remember Me" which is perhaps what your daughter would want you to feel. I hope I'm not being intrusive.
http://www.poetryfoundation.org/poem/174266

 

[Martin24]

Damian,

I too have read your posting and subsequent ones, I have also suggested that the line been drawn under the subject. I am sorry that you felt the need to share your sad news in such away but completely agree with you. I am sure your customers were and continue to be understanding and cut you some slack. Those that don't, well who needs them. Things do not get better or easier with time, things change and we cope in different ways as time goes by but the pain and the sorrow remains with us. My thoughts are with you and your family. I hope that as time goes by you find that equalibrium that enables you to function and move forward.

Take care.

 

[ProfJohnL]

I was saddened to read of Damian's loss and of course I send my condolances.
Its never easy to loss a family member but especially in such sudden and apparently futile circumstances its difficult to comprehend the saddness of the event.

 

[Gybe]

Damian. A very diificult time in a parent's life, please accept our condolences.
Sadly you are not alone in what you and your wife and family will be going through.

 

[JonnyG]

No words exist to properly explain the pain you damian and your family will be going through. no words exist that can truly console you.
It matters not that others have been there too. it matters not that in time you will handle the pain a little easier.
All that matters now is you and your family are there for one another at this time........

 

[Gagakev]

Damian, please accept our condolences which go to both you and your family.

 

[Mel]

Oh Damian, how truly awful. My deepest sympathy and condolences to you and your family. There is no short cut through the pain but I will add my prayers to DD's, that you may find some strength in this dreadful darkness.
mel

 

[Damian]

My Goodness !!
What wonderful people you all are, and a heartfelt thank you to each and every one of you for your very kind words and understanding.

Both Sue and I have no objections to prayers being said for Michelle, and I know we are not alone in what has happened, it is happening every day to someone , somewhere, and we now understand just what pain really is, and that there is nothing that can be done to take it away.
I am sure some of you have experienced what we are now, and we take comfort from the fact that you have managed to find a way of dealing with the experience, and it holds some hope that we will be able to find that place at some time.
I cannt explain why I posted as I did, I never meant to air our problems on an open forum, but I did.
Dustydog, thanks for the link, it is something we have looked at.
We found a poem which seemed to reflect Michelle and her life which we had read at her funeral, if its not too upsetting I will reproduce it below:

We have just learnt that Michelle suffered a suberacknoid haemmorage (excuse the spelling) and that we could have lost her at any time over the last 36 years, so we were very privileged to have had the joy of her for the time we did.

Don’t grieve for me for now I’m free

I’m following the path God laid for me

I took his hand when I heard Him call

I turned my back and left it all.

I could not stay another day

To laugh, to love, to work, to play

Tasks left undone must stay that way

I found that place at the close of day.

If my parting has left a void

Then fill it with remembered joy

A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss

Ah! Yes those things I too will miss.

Be not burdened with times of sorrow

I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow

My life’s been full, I’ve savoured much

Good friends, good times, a loved one’s touch.

Perhaps my time seemed all too brief

Don’t lengthen it with undue grief

Lift up your heart and share with me

God wanted me now, He set me free.

 

[kopite]

Please accept our most heartfelt sympathies for your loss… our thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time.

 

[soldlisa04]

Our heartfelt sympathies to you and your family on the loss of your daughter. My husband tragically lost his sister in 2005 aged 37 very suddenly and unexpectedly and it hit his family really hard. We found the book called Living on the Sea Bed by Lindsay Nicholson very helpful as it is all about the seven layers of grief (she lost her Husband, then young daughter). I won't lie to you, it's an upsetting but beautiful read, you will cry, but it does help immensely and I've recommended it to others who have suffered bereavement. With our best wishes to you and yours. Lisa and John.