hi again Kevin,
I agree with Ray S a 13 pin would be the best solution, as it pays to be ahead in this game
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but that was not the original question,
as I understand it at the moment your present set up it is twin cable,with an Alko stabiliser on the van, and you are buying a new towcar (presumedly not new) that has a tow bar fitted but with a single black plug 7pin plug, and greased ball, "been there done that!!", and are unsure of how to proceed to convert it to tow your caravan.
if that is correct then there are certain steps you must take, first change the ball to alko type " I notice you have done this allready"
and tackle the electrics, this is where being ahead of the game is important, you could just have a extra grey plug fitted and depending on the condition of the black one renew this one, or go the whole hog and have the car converted to 13pin, I would not have thought this would cost much extra if having it done proffesionally, and dependant on your DIY skills it is a fairly straight forward job to tackle ones self, if you are thinking of changing the van at some point the chances are this will have a 13pin plug if fairly new anyway so you will be ahead of the game in this respect.
this then only leaves the question of what to do with your present van, you could just use a set of tails this will work just fine up to a point, or you could convert this to 13pin as Ray suggests, and would be much better. again this depends on your DIY skill level. it can be done quite easily either by modifying the wiring as suggested by Ray or obtaining a double entry 13pin plug to put the two grey and black wires into it, or (and this is what I did) rewire the van to 13pin entirely using the existing connection points that are used by the twin cables, under the van,
in the end it is up to you how far you want to go, these are only suggestions but are food for thought, but the best time to think ahead is at the time of changing either van or towcar.
colin