Sorry to hear your news Cris.

[LadyMaureen]

Cris,

I am so sorry to hear that your Father died at the weekend,and that you were so far away.Keep the memories precious in the coming years.

Maureen

 

[cris_408518]

Thank you Maureen ! And very many thanks to everyone else who gave me support some weeks back.

Dad and I said our goodbyes some weeks ago, and thankfuly he will have known very little or nothing about his ending in the past two or three weeks.

He would haunted me if I had sat beside his bed waiting for the end, he told me so!

To most of our parents are special people, my Dad was special to many many people all through his working career and life.

One of the bottom to top stories in his career and remained friends with all he met on the way up and remained friends even after he retired over twenty years ago.

I've just been speaking to my Mum and she has emails from all over the world and the phone has not stopped since Saturday, my inbox has had to compress emails as I have the same.

A very old close family friend died last week as well, they will be both smiling that "the system" and Blairs lot never got what they worked for ;-)

Funeral is next Wednesday and I then have an appointment with a VERY VERY VERY expensive bottle of Cognac due to a promise and agreement we made over thirty years ago

I rarely drink and don't take water with Cognac but know that'll be difficult

 

[Janey1]

Cris,

So sorry to hear you sad news. From reading some of your posts where you mentioned your Dad, he sounded like a wonderful man and the kind of father some people can only wish for. I'm sure you are as proud of him as he surely was of you.

Take care

Janey

 

[cris_408518]

When quite young living abroad I suddenly realised people were saying nice thing about my Dad, and when a teenager I caught on that he was infact very important in his job. Others who were not as important had attitudes but Dad was always so cool and even when so ill all the hospital staff loved him and his manner.

Never used my brain enough and ditched all career prospects to his horror, but he loved my independence and always was on the end of the phone with help and advice!

He always said I was "to hard and a nasty piece of work". I guess we were were quite similar but shared a manner where people aften assume the wrong thing about us.

I've just received email that family friends are flying in from Oz, and other far off places for his funeral.

The frightening thing is, I am now the "senior male" of the family.

HELP ??????????????????

 

[colin(bridgend)]

Cris so sorry to hear of your Dad. You have not only lost your father but also a jolly good friend. The only consolation is that he is now at rest and is not suffering any more. Keep your head high and weather the storm and pass on to your mother the feelings of all contributers to this forum. Regards Colin

 

[Tina3]

I can only imagine how you are feeling! I have everything to owe my Dad , a special selfless man, who is always there to bail me out ! cant imagine life without him about .Enjoy that Cognac ! x

 

[CliveV]

cris - so sorry to hear your news - My Father died just over 10 years ago.

He was attending an Army reunion in Dorset and was staying with friends. He had had heart problems for a while.

He died having a laugh with old friends whilst drinking a whisky and soda - his favourite.

What a way to go!

Hope I am as lucky.

Best wishes

 

[cris_408518]

Slight change of work plans so I'm staying the night with friends near Agay.

You can not wish loved ones to continue on when the body and sytems have spent years closing down, Dad was lucky like his friens and was "all there" until a few weeks ago and then it was like a plug had been pulled permanently :-(

This morning I followed a Ferrari at a "fast" speed towards France (sorry) alone with my Heavy Rock music a little to loud and the early morning sunlight bouncing off the hills. The disc finishes and a compilation album came on.

"Bl88dy rock music", came from beside me and I had tears in my eyes and was shivering cold. I stopped at the services 10K along the Autostrada and had a coffee. Normaly the CD starts off where it stopped but went to a Corrs Album as I rejoined the road and the car seemed really cold!

No joke. Dad alays pulled my leg about my music choice, and the only Album that he could put up with on my system was the one that came on, The Coors!

 

[Lord Braykewynde]

..... also sorry about your sad news cris. I too will have lasting memories of my father, I can still see his face as he ate a giant chocolate eclair my sis had bought into the hospital the night before his operation. It still makes me smile seeing him eating it with cream all over his nose. He had a tumour on the brain and because of his level of fitness they said they would operate. The op consisted of pushing a probe up his artery as far as the tumour and cauterising it, stopping the blood vessel that was feeding the tumour. This was successful but unfortunately the probe dislodged a fatty bolus from the artery lining which caused him to have a stroke. They did drip feed him for so long but then told us it would be kinder to turn it off as his quality of life (if he did regain consciousness) would be poor. After consultation between our family we had to follow the professional advice. Basically though he starved to death and it was awful sitting with him until he died. He was a fit person before but when he died he was skin and bone. They wouldn't treat animals that way and in hindsight I'm sure more could have been done for him. The worse part was knowing the tumour was shrinking and seeing him start to move his fingers for the first time although still unconcious. Once they transferred him from the University Hospital at Nottingham to Kings Mill at Mansfield I knew then there was no hope. I'll never forget that chocolate eclair, everytime I see one it brings a smile to my face :O)

 

[cris_408518]

Thanks to everyone again, it is beautiful morning and we can see the inviting Med from the terrace here. I am just going to have another swim and shower and then hit the Autoroute towards Marseille and on to Spain.

The journey home is going to be a hard one on Monday. I emailed your words to my mother who says "thanks to all".

Bon Chance and Bon Route to all on their road travels like me.

cris.

 

[Tina3]

..... also sorry about your sad news cris. I too will have lasting memories of my father, I can still see his face as he ate a giant chocolate eclair my sis had bought into the hospital the night before his operation. It still makes me smile seeing him eating it with cream all over his nose. He had a tumour on the brain and because of his level of fitness they said they would operate. The op consisted of pushing a probe up his artery as far as the tumour and cauterising it, stopping the blood vessel that was feeding the tumour. This was successful but unfortunately the probe dislodged a fatty bolus from the artery lining which caused him to have a stroke. They did drip feed him for so long but then told us it would be kinder to turn it off as his quality of life (if he did regain consciousness) would be poor. After consultation between our family we had to follow the professional advice. Basically though he starved to death and it was awful sitting with him until he died. He was a fit person before but when he died he was skin and bone. They wouldn't treat animals that way and in hindsight I'm sure more could have been done for him. The worse part was knowing the tumour was shrinking and seeing him start to move his fingers for the first time although still unconcious. Once they transferred him from the University Hospital at Nottingham to Kings Mill at Mansfield I knew then there was no hope. I'll never forget that chocolate eclair, everytime I see one it brings a smile to my face :O)

Then I'll happily in one in memory of him , or would he have liked me to eat two!? xx