Hello Surfer,
You have certainly been trawling the internet for advice and the legal side of things. You have found two web pages that are of considerable interest, and I am grateful for that as I have not seen either of these previously.
One point to bear in mind, is that the second document is definitely out of date, as the UK regulations of trailer width are now harmonised with the EU, so even using Govt. web sites you do need to be careful about issues that might be under review.
Now to the detail of your posting. I am aware that some manufactures actually quote different max towed masses relating depending on the altitude (not really an issue in the UK) and degree of the incline. So it may be that under certain conditions (as specfied by the manufacture) you may have to de-rate the available loading margins.
As for the gross train mass issue, where you think you may be 110kg over loaded. Your assumption relies on the possibility that both the car and the caravan will be loaded to their maximum limits. If this is likely, then I respectfully suggest that perhaps the outfit is not big enough for your needs.
Don't forget that the offence of over loading is based on actual measured weights, and not just on the GVM and trailer MTPLM figure added together, So ignoring any driving licence restrictions you may have, mechanically you could have a car with prescribed maximum towed mass of 1500kg, and you can actually tow a trailer that has an MTPLM of 1600kg or more, provided it is not actually loaded above 1500kg