Ray- I think you'll find that the fridge supply and battery charging are on two completely separate relays. The fridge relay being in the car, and the habitation relay for the internal 12v./battery charging is in the 'van.This of-course is for post 1998 caravans.
Pre 1998 'vans have their batteries charged via pins 2 & 3 on the 12S socket with the relay being in the car.
Simon- the supply should be a steady flow, instead of the pulsed flow that you are getting, and if the battery is dead flat, you would be better trying to charge it with a mains charger initially.