Hey Ray,
I'm not surprised if the joints in caravan water systems leak if a hose is connected without a pressure reducer. Mains water pressure is typically 6 Bar, and with inertial loads can easily double or more for a moment. caravan water systems are designed for about 1.5 Bar.
Paul, there area a few systems that offer what you are asking, and previous respondents have posted some useful links, but there is a fairly common complaint about the in line pressure reducer systems and that is poor flow compared to an electric pump. The torbeck valve in a water carrier is a neat solution and relatively low cost, and if there is a hose leak, it at least outside the caravan. It just needs someone to com up with an equally neat solution for the waste water.