Quote "as they presume that if the car is up to 135kgs then its ok to do so"
Unfortunately there are so many variables that come into play that there is no simple answer.
The car may well have a hitch weight of in excess of 100Kg , but that tries to take account of the many possible uses of the type of trailer which can be pulled, from caravans to flat beds and everything in between.
Different chassis manufacturers set different loadings to suit the application of the chassis, and a caravan chassis is not the strongest in the world, when you compare it with something like an Ifor Williams made to carry heavy industrial equipment.
Then you have the different hitch couplings, of which Al-Ko stipulate a max hitch weight on the AKS 2004, 3004 and 1365 of 100Kg
As with everything relating to cars and trailers, the law states that iti s the drivers responsibility to ensure the correct loading for the application.
VOSA will only go on data they have from their database, and if overloaded will either allow you to discard excess items to bring the weight down, or prohibit you from moving on until you make arrangements to have alternative means of moving the trailer, ie recovery.
That is why it is so important to read the respective manuals which come with car and van/trailer to establish what is correct for your particular combination.
I can only agree that more information should be made available by dealers and a more pro active approach by the Clubs and manufacturers in educating on this issue.
Sadly not all caravan salesmen are very well informed themselves. which does little to help the customer.