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Have been come aware on tv the amount of children who are becoming stress for all sorts of reason, one about not going to school and another their future prospects. Both are important in the long run but cannot understand at that age why. My wife and I both came through the Blitz as children and cannot recall these emotions . Perhaps we just got on with it taking one day at a time and not thinking about tomorrow ,if there is going to be a tomorrow.
 
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Our daughters children have become stressed to different degrees due to the lockdown. The big difference between the blitz and the lockdown is social interaction. In the blitz there was still the ability to get out and meet friends where with the lock down this has largely been missed. Schooling seems to be very different from one place to the next so some pupils are doing quite well while others are struggling. Possibly the reports have been those with problems ignoring the ones who are not. Children are more cosseted now but the loss of social interaction looks to be the real problem in many cases.
The possibility of not being there tomorrow is something that children are less aware of so may not have been the problem suggested.
 
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Have been come aware on tv the amount of children who are becoming stress for all sorts of reason, one about not going to school and another their future prospects. Both are important in the long run but cannot understand at that age why. My wife and I both came through the Blitz as children and cannot recall these emotions . Perhaps we just got on with it taking one day at a time and not thinking about tomorrow ,if there is going to be a tomorrow.
I guess you had the freedom to mix and play with your friends and not continually bombarded with social media and tv. Our granddaughter has today been in to school to inform the year head that apart from tests, design and technology practicals that she won’t be attending other lessons. But will continue to do them online.
Yesterday she “interviewed “ a local college about attending a Forensic Science course. She has been given a provisional place depending on end of year grades. Never dare do anything like that in my day. Life’s different.
 
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The last twelve months have been unprecedented with more variations than those Karma sort of books🤪. My DIL is a teacher in Harrogate. A number of pupils stayed home and were parent tutored. Others attended school because their parents have essential jobs eg NHS. Others have parents not capable of home tutoring so they too went to school. The teachers following HMG Covid protocols took it in turn to attend.
As far as I am aware all people, young and old , to some degree, a lot or little have suffered stress. But stress is a natural phenomenon and not necessarily bad. How it is dealt with is the key Imo.
For me I believe the self isolation and lack of socialising with their friends has caused problems but hopefully the reality will be no long term damage.
 

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Have been come aware on tv the amount of children who are becoming stress for all sorts of reason, one about not going to school and another their future prospects. Both are important in the long run but cannot understand at that age why. My wife and I both came through the Blitz as children and cannot recall these emotions . Perhaps we just got on with it taking one day at a time and not thinking about tomorrow ,if there is going to be a tomorrow.
While its good to hear that you both survived the Blitz relatively unscathed, I'm pretty sure there were a number of children and adults that were traumatised by the experience.

One of the difference is that these days news from anywhere in the world is available 24/7 at the touch of a button - not so 'during the war'. Which means that stress related conditions caused by traumatic experiences then, were not widely reported to the general public as they are now.

Its equally likely that we have a more caring society that can afford to openly address these issues. Just because they weren't talked about in years gone by doesn't mean they didn't exist nor does it make them any less real today.
 
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I think it is lack of socialising that affects every one and makes them stressed out. It is all very well chatting Online or over the telephone, but every one needs that personal interaction.
I find it difficult, well impossible really, to get my head round the modern younger generation being stressed by lack of personal interaction when they normally spend so much time in that position voluntarily on their phones, playstations, PCs or televisions, so much so that getting personal interaction out of them is very hard work.
 
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While its good to hear that you both survived the Blitz relatively unscathed, I'm pretty sure there were a number of children and adults that were traumatised by the experience.

One of the difference is that these days news from anywhere in the world is available 24/7 at the touch of a button - not so 'during the war'. Which means that stress related conditions caused by traumatic experiences then, were not widely reported to the general public as they are now.

Its equally likely that we have a more caring society that can afford to openly address these issues. Just because they weren't talked about in years gone by doesn't mean they didn't exist nor does it make them any less real today.

My wife’s mother never recovered from the Coventry bombing. I did not meet her as she was resident in a mental institution until she died, and my wife and her three brothers were all fostered long term as her father couldn’t cope. A good friends father never made it through the fifties as his experience in the Burma campaign prayed so much on his mind. So I think you are right. Being a more open society we are more aware and hopefully can help those affected.
 
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I find it difficult, well impossible really, to get my head round the modern younger generation being stressed by lack of personal interaction when they normally spend so much time in that position voluntarily on their phones, playstations, PCs or televisions, so much so that getting personal interaction out of them is very hard work.
I wonder what their thumbs will be like in a few years🤪
 
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I find it stressfull, when one of my sons, states that he goes for "Therapy", he is a design engineer with JLR, recently changed from exhaust design to , Battery compartments, previously with Triumph motorcycles. Married , no rug rats, has a nice income, no debts, just about to change to a nicer house.
I then think what is it that stresses you out. I never get a straight answer.

I used to do 6 weeks, at a time in the Karokorum mountains, for 4 years. with a helicopter, no link to home, unless Using HF radio to Portishead. Mrs H had to do everything, at home. Two kids, dog, job as a bookepper, she didnt have time to be stressed.
Covid restrictions are there for our own good.
We have, Telephones, TV, and radio. I am now learning German, ready for the Black forest sites in maybe a year or two time.
Think now, think of the future.
 
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I find it stressfull, when one of my sons, states that he goes for "Therapy", he is a design engineer with JLR, recently changed from exhaust design to , Battery compartments, previously with Triumph motorcycles. Married , no rug rats, has a nice income, no debts, just about to change to a nicer house.
I then think what is it that stresses you out. I never get a straight answer.

I used to do 6 weeks, at a time in the Karokorum mountains, for 4 years. with a helicopter, no link to home, unless Using HF radio to Portishead. Mrs H had to do everything, at home. Two kids, dog, job as a bookepper, she didnt have time to be stressed.
Covid restrictions are there for our own good.
We have, Telephones, TV, and radio. I am now learning German, ready for the Black forest sites in maybe a year or two time.
Think now, think of the future.
It‘s easy Hutch. For four years you used a spade. Every day your son used an Armitage Shanks😜😜😜😜
 
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I find it stressfull, when one of my sons, states that he goes for "Therapy", he is a design engineer with JLR, recently changed from exhaust design to , Battery compartments, previously with Triumph motorcycles. Married , no rug rats, has a nice income, no debts, just about to change to a nicer house.
I then think what is it that stresses you out. I never get a straight answer.

I used to do 6 weeks, at a time in the Karokorum mountains, for 4 years. with a helicopter, no link to home, unless Using HF radio to Portishead. Mrs H had to do everything, at home. Two kids, dog, job as a bookepper, she didnt have time to be stressed.
Covid restrictions are there for our own good.
We have, Telephones, TV, and radio. I am now learning German, ready for the Black forest sites in maybe a year or two time.
Think now, think of the future.
I was sent to Canada for 12 months and my wife and two youngsters were not allowed to come with me. So she had a partly renovated cottage on Dartmoor plus land to look after, and still worked. I had no leave entitlement at Government expense nor was my family entitled to any visit costs. On return one Monday morning I was appointed to Bath the next day. Stressful. Yes.
 
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My mum is 95 in a care home but doing well with her Altzheimers. In July 1944 she was buried alive in the Tottenham Court Road ,London ,Bank vault For 48 hours. 56 people died. Mum and another lady survived. Sent was home and told to report to Coventry Street Branch next day . Come in late at 9.30am. That Branch Manager told her to go home early at 5.30pm. I know things were different then but years ago my Mum used to tell us all To get a grip. In her time they were fighting for their freedom. At least we all speak English not German. I imagine the stressors in those days were terrible but when you are fighting for your life .........................
 
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It‘s easy Hutch. For four years you used a spade. Every day your son used an Armitage Shanks😜😜😜😜
Dusty D for 4 years my boys 6 and 8 years old, lived in Nigeria, schooled by Dutch Shell then a Norwegien school. they have seen the worst of things out there, lived a fantastic life, Jet skis, Laser dinghys, learned to fly helicopters, (which they never followed up) they passed their exams. I taught them the different types of snakes, very clever boys our two, they can cook a steak without burning it.
I cannot understand why they are stressed. We never push them to be above anything, just enjoy life,
They enjoy driving, skateboarding, kite flying, walking , outside life. .
But they are stressed. Is it an American thing,
"You must have a Therapist"
I don't understand, but they also don' t like an Abbots Ale.
 
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I will not tell them, It would only stress them out. Adnams, Ghost ship £1.55 Breakspears Golden 4.6% £1.44.
This is a secret code.
:eek::eek: This must be treason. :eek::eek:

I'll bet it points to the grid reference of the Banks's brewery so the Skandanavian brewers can bomb it out of existence:cool:
 
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Have been come aware on tv the amount of children who are becoming stress for all sorts of reason, one about not going to school and another their future prospects. Both are important in the long run but cannot understand at that age why. My wife and I both came through the Blitz as children and cannot recall these emotions . Perhaps we just got on with it taking one day at a time and not thinking about tomorrow ,if there is going to be a tomorrow.
We live in a different world now where the children have pressures from every angle, being home offers no shelter from this now as their phones etc come into this once safe haven. It would be nice to go back to those times even when bombs and not knowing if you were going to wake up to having a roof over your head. Different pressures now so emotions reflect this, childhood is shorter and the pleasure of play is different now more sophisticated, not just a bow and arrow or dolls house.
 
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I see we are gently moving away from the children and getting into "being away from loved ones". I might as well start my one. At age seven sent away to Cornwall and never saw my Mum for two years. At eighteen ,again never saw my Mum for two years, at this one when home my Sister first words to me was "you don't half talk funny".
 

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