Hi Denise,
I was one of those who recommended SB to you. We have also been to Bashley on several occasions. Bashley does have its own merits, there is a massive football field,also some tennis courts and there is the choice of indoor/outdoor pool (same as SB) however the indoor pool has a fun slide and the outdoor one is great in the height of the Summer as it is a bit of a suntrap.
The pitches are reasonable size and the place is clean, but there are only a limited number of multi service pitches though. Also on departure day you have to be off by 10 (and they mean it!!) whereas SB departure is 11.
Bashley is fine if you want to be nearer the coast,SB is more inland and a lot more rural.
I think that although the club facilities at Bashley are good, they can be a bit rowdy at peak times, mainly due to the arcades being in the same complex. At SB the arcade is much smaller and better controlled and well away from the entertainment area.