..... I would think that it is impossible for the load on the caravan hitch to reduce as "load" can be from any direction and I am no engineer. In this scenario the load would be lifting the towball on the car.
If you use the jockey wheel (JW) to lift the A frame to check the hitch has properly engaged, then as soon as the JW begins to lift the A frame you are beginning to share the support of the A frame through the both the JW and the hitch.
The greater the lift you apply a greater proportion of the load will be taken by the JW, and correspondingly less load carried by the hitch as shown by the relaxing of the cars rear suspension.
As soon as you raise the A frame enough to allow the cars towball to rise to its unhitched ride height, the ball will no longer be adding any support to the hitch and the A frames entire load is supported by the JW alone
If continue to to raise the A frame beyond the cars unhitched ride height, you are lifting the car and the transfer of load from the cars rear suspension to the JW will rapidly increase the load on the hitch, though now the direction of that load is reversed an the ball is trying to be pulled out of the hitch.