Just to clarify for Colin-Yorkshire...
The car was a megane sports coupe, the 3 door 2+2, not the 5 door hatchback. This is considerable smaller than a standard megane, and the van was around the 2000-2003 age making it around 1350mtplm.
I am aware of train weights and MTPLM having it drilled into me by dealers when i was choosing our new van, but that match was most certainly unsafe.
The point i am really trying to make is with so many letters and articles in Practical Caravan (and others) do so many people take so many risks?
I am in the process of looking for an alternative car as my company car is due to go back with me changing jobs, but the first things i am looking at is, what can it tow and what does it weigh? Our caravan is our pride and joy, and if anything happened because i did something stupid on the road i would be totally gutted