Hello Icarus 5
I'm not sure where you have got your information from about jockey wheels, but a standard Alko one
https://www.amazon.co.uk/CARAVAN-TRAILER-ALKO-JOCKEY-WHEEL/dp/B0064CWKC4
you can see is statically rated to 150kg.
and the heavy duty one is rated to 300kg
http://www.al-ko.com/shop/uk_vt/products/caravan-accessories-1/jockey-wheels-accessories/premium-jockey-wheel.html
As for the load on the jockey wheel on site, well that depends the turning moments the weight of the bodies produces in the caravan pivoting on the main wheels.
Just as a very rough guide, the furthest away from the axle you can normally sit will be no more than about 2M, and each adjacent person will be about 0.6M nearer the axle. Assuming a 75kg person, that will be two 150kg 2M from the axle producing a torque of 300 NM
150kg 1.4 Mfrom the axle producing a torque of 210 NM
150kg 0.8M from the axle producing a torque of 120 NM giving a total torque of 630 NM
However the Jockey wheel will be typically 3.5M or more away from the axle so the reaction it provides will be 630/3.5 = 180 kg. BUT the jockey wheel is not the only support, as you should be deploying the steadies, and they will share some of the load, It difficult say exactly how much but it will be likely to be more than you think. So its highly unlikely you will be overloading the jockey wheel.
As for how to set the steadies, their purpose is to stop the caravan rocking when people move about inside. The steadies are designed to apply some pressure to the ground which will as you say react with the underfloor structures, but the structures do have some capacity to carry load. So in the absence of pressure gauges to measure the thrust the adage of to the ground should be highly effective.
However if you are happy to allow some rocking movement then that is your choice, but its not mine, and frankly if the steadies and the rest of the caravan structure could not withstand some thrust, in my book the caravan would not be fit for purpose.