I can see from your posts that you are a mild mannered man, but a set of wheels includes the spare, tell your dealer that this is the case, I Just asked the question "I assume this includes the spare"? and the dealer ordered five, your man appears to think that he is saving kia money or maybe the `set of wheels` is five and he puts one to one side to sell on later, either way he needs sorting out, obviuosly the term `the customer is always right` isnt in his vocabulary, tell me where you live i`ll pop down and have a word.
YOU ARE NOT PUSHING YOUR LUCK BY ASKING FOR A SPARE, IT IS YOUR RIGHT, BY USING THIS DEALERSHIP YOU ARE PAYING THE WAGES, I`m sure Kia would love to here about this bullying man, it is not there policy to carry on like he is doing.
Just out of interest which town do you live in?
good luck Tony A.