Yes in real terms it's the alternator that pushes 80A into the slave/domestic battery. With a narrow boat the regulator may be changed for a stage charging regulator on the second alternator or a alternator to battery inverter used so on start up three 160 Ah batteries used for domestic supply can get 160 amp charge for first hour, clearly pushing this through a 13 pin caravan plug and socket is not really an option.
With the old Lucas 18 ACR alternators the Durite rectifier pack had the same size diodes for the warning lamp as main output, so with a machine sensed regulator one could add three smaller diodes for the warning light and field current and use the original warning light supply to charge a second battery, this worked very well, charging the second battery at 35 amp if required.
However using something like 25 mm cables really designed as welding cables, and forklift plug and socket for jump leads, this was how my auto electricians van was wired with moveable link bars so I could jump start 24 volt wagons.
There are two things which limit the current to caravan battery, one is resistance of cables, and other is size of caravan battery. The leisure battery will not accept power as fast as a VRLA used to start modern stop/start cars, and 2.5 mm cable has a resistance of 0.036Ω per meter so 10 meters through car and caravan well more as return wired in caravan not chassis so looking at a 0.4Ω resistance at 13.8 - 12 = 1.8 volts difference between batteries gives a charge rate of 4.5 amp, some alternators have a higher voltage output and a battery could start under 12 volt so at start up you may get 10 amp, until the battery voltage raises a bit.
However in the case of a battery in a car boot, with 16 mm cables much shorter and no 13 pin socket one could get 60 amp, and with a battery connected to a 13 pin plug with just 1 meter of cable sitting at rear of car and the socket has just on meter of cable to prime mover battery in boot then you may get 60 amp, so in this case, we could have a problem.
The DC to DC battery charging inverter is the answer, fitted in the caravan a 20 amp version will overcome volt drop and ensure a 3 hour trip will pump 60 Ah into a 110 Ah battery until it gets to 80% charged state, and will also stop over 20 amp passing through cables.in correct direction, and remove need for any relay or blocking diode in the car to stop reverse current. Even a 10 amp version is likely better than a split charging relay, and not affected by stop/start technology or engine management turning off charging under load, No need to run around with head lights on.
The problem is the control is switched from car to caravan, so a car set to tow a caravan with DC to DC inverter fitted if used with old caravan without the inverter fitted could allow start current to flow caravan to car, so belt and bracer's is fit a schottky blocking diode in the car.
However to date it seems wiring of caravan charging systems has not caught up with today's technology so voltage dependent relays are still fitted in cars instead of the schottky blocking diode so as the engine management switches off alternator caravan battery charging and more important the anti snake devices are switched off.
I am I am sure the same as any other caravanner, I did not want to fit my own tow bar, I got it fitted before I took delivery of the car, As a result not a clue how its wired up. And BS7671 does not stipulate use of voltage dependent relays or schottky blocking diodes so if the installer has not fitted them I can hardly complain. To be on save side however my caravan has a charging fuse, so worst case is that fuse will rupture. I think from memory around 16A so since to date has not blown, clearly less than 16A in either direction flows.