Multiple rechecking our wheel bolts is not going to over load them.
Any repeated torquing is dealing with static friction, whereas initial tightening can invoke kinetic friction.
A bolt's tension, as correctly identified the real aim of torquing up, will always be greater for a set torquing level where kinetic friction is involved, the bolt's mating faces are sliding, than the tension achieved by rechecking a static bolt; unless of course it actually is found lose and moves.
So, forget this nonsense about the dangers of over torquing a bolt by simply retorquing to the correct set value, it will not happen; the danger is it might not achieve correctly tightening a seized up underloaded bolt.
Don't pre loosen them, there is way greater danger the matting thread and face surfaces have over time gained greater friction, [oxidation and loss of the plating metal or coating that itself provides some lubrication], so the achieved tension will be too low.
And definitely don't grease or oil bolts here where the quoted figures are for "dry" torquing; that can massively over tension the bolts.
Torquing up technique involves simply "leaning" on the wrench, not using some inertial flywheel technique!
Other torquing applications, such as with some cylinder heads involves differing techniques some where the bolt is taken into plastic stretch and are very much one shot applications, some involving wet torquing; here it's just a user replaceable road wheel, a potential roadside task, a way different job.