Mel said:
Anyone found out yet why Surfer has staggered off in a strop? His choice of course, but it would be interesting to know what caused him to take such offence.
mel
Dustydog said:
Martin24 said:
Possibly the "utter rubbish" comment in towcars which Parksey has tried to deal with and got a rather half hearted apology from the person that made the comment. That's about all I could find that possibly caused it?????????????????????????
If it was the one I think, Antara, then it's a sad day indeed. I can't find anything else in recent times that is adversarial
Apologies for taking this thread completely off topic from what it was meant to be about but I have my own thoughts on this matter.
Over the years it's not unkown for forum members to take exception to what they see as an insult, a slight or what they feel is unfair treatment meted out to them, especially by the arch villian of the forum, the moderator.
This has often resulted in what I've come to regard as 'the flounce', where the toys get thrown out of the pram, the dummy is well and truly spat out and somebody flounces off in high dudgeon vowing never to return to the forum.
A few years ago I used to worry when somebody did a flounce, I'd even try to persuade them to come back to the forum if I could.
As a moderator I felt that if I'd done something that had upset somebody enough to make them flounce off then I ought to try to put things right if I could.
Even when I've not been directly involved I've tried to mediate between two opposing parties who are involved in a forum argument or disagreement, I still do that sometimes but mainly off forum via email.
There have been cases when people who have become a wee bit hot under the collar have been banned from this forum by another moderator, and I have worked to find a solution and re-instated the banned forum member, no names - no pack drill.
Over the past few years my attitude toward flouncers has changed somewhat and I now consider those who do a flounce to be a wee bit immature so I just let them get on with it, I'm certainly not going to carry out moderating duties on the forum any differently as a result of the threat of a flounce taking place.
Some flouncers eventually come back of their own accord, some make more comebacks than Lazarus, and some dont ever return to the forum but if, as a forum moderator, I had to adjust the way that I worked to ensure the smooth hassle free running of the forum according to the probability of somebody doing a flounce then we would have a very unfair system indeed.
The same thing applies to my two moderator colleagues.
In this particular case it's rather sad that Surfer's flounce has been taken to the extreme whereby he's decided not to join the rest of us at Poston Mill after he'd booked and paid for the trip..
Hey ho, such is life and if Surfer has flounced off and binned his visit to Poston with us as a result of something that I've done as a forum moderator I'll try my very best not to lose too much sleep over it, difficult though that may seem.
I was asked to become a member of the Woosie Club quite a while back and though I was flattered and pleased to be asked, in the interests of forum unity I had to politely decline.
Perhaps this particular incident may shed some light on why I had to decline, I can't be seen or perceived to be acting more favourably to one group of people over another.
I try to carefully think before I act when handling the thorny issue of forum moderating, I have a responsibility to be seen to be fair, reasonable and polite to everyone because I am able to affect their ability to use this forum or to control what they can submit in their comments. All of this of couse has to be balanced with the way that Haymarket want the forum to be run, the way that it reflects on Practical Caravan magazine and the way that forum members feel about the forum in general, in terms of friendliness, helpfulness and the fairness of it's moderators.
It's a responsibility that I take very seriously so I'm not about to apologise for what I do in the interests of the forum as a whole or to favour one person over another no matter what the situation is when I have to use moderator input.
I've no more idea than anyone else as to why Surfer has acted in the way that he has, I suspect that it may be because of a locked topic a while back in which nit picking arguments and silly wind-up points scoring was beginning to damage the reputation of the forum, but whatever the reason Surfer must do what he thinks is best for him.